Are You a Good Listener? 5 Steps to Becoming an Active Listener

Updated: Nov 2, 2020

Are you a good listener?

The following article is from my free mini-course: Mastering ESL Listening Comprehension for Better Business Relationships.

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On a scale of 1 to 10, how good of a listener are you? I'm not talking about your comprehension of the English language while listening, but rather your ability to focus on and be mentally present while another is speaking.

Be honest. Think back on your most recent conversation. Did you interrupt the speaker a few times, complete his or her sentence, or let your mind consider what you would say in response while the other person was still talking? If not, that's terrific because you are already at an advantage.

But if you're not a particularly good listener, thankfully it's a skill that you can improve. And, it's the key to having powerful relationships in and outside of business.

Why? Because everyone once to feel truly heard; it's human nature. So, if you can learn to be a good listener, people will be attracted to you and seek you out for your listening skills. And, it all starts with something called active listening.

What is Active Listening?

Before I answer that, what do you already know about active listening? Maybe you've heard the term before or have a good guess as to what it means. What do you think of when you hear the term active?

According to, active listening...

"...refers to a pattern of listening that keeps you engaged with your conversation partner in a positive way. It is the process of listening attentively while someone else speaks, paraphrasing and reflecting back what is said, and withholding judgment and advice."